Business Chat - Learning to say No

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If there’s one thing I have struggled with often on my journey of being self employed, it’s saying No. I’d over commit myself to so many events, meetings and catchups all too often and I’m sure I’m not alone on that one. By adding that to my already crazy workload, it left me with zero time for me to do anything non work related .. yano important things like taking a moment to have a catchup drink with friends LOL

2019 has already been a year for so many incredible events and product launches, both here and in the North Island. In previous years I have 100% been a yes man, even though I actually find some events a little daunting going to on my own. I’ve always felt like It was almost rude of me to not show face - but in reality no matter who you are people probably aren’t even going to actually notice if your not there - cue what I like to call work guilts!

Over the last 5 years especially I’ve made a real commitment to go to Auckland every 6-8weeks for business catch ups. This has been really good for me, and has definetly helped lesson the pressures of not being able to attend everything that comes into my inbox.

It probably wasn’t actually until the end of last year, that I realised that I just can’t sustain so many commitments and now I really need to prioritise what it is im attending, and if it will give back to me in anyway. Although I totally appreciate networking with others within your industry, it’s actually not going to benefit me if everytime it’s just businesses wanting me to do “more work” for “exposure” and the sake of a photo to prove I attended so to speak.

For example most events will ask you to post during your time, which of course then adds onto the workload and delays other things you may have in your lineup - these might actually be paying jobs your delaying which isn’t a good move . This is exactly where I was running into problems as I was trying to please too many people at once.

When running a business sometimes you have to make tough calls and you have to put aside personal feelings to professional, thats just all part of the ride. For instance this week, I have been asked to attend a really cool yoga morning and am currently trying to juggle things on that date, so I can attend. But sometimes you do just have to understand what will be will be and things wont always work in your favour that’s just the way it is.

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I think my biggest advice for anyone new to business is to know your worth from early on. Don’t feel like you owe anyone anything, or you will end up in the situation I have been in for the last few years. Being strong and learning to prioritise is helping to lesson the weight on my shoulders, and I know that If I can’t make a few event’s its actually not going to effect my business in anyway shape or form.

It’s normal to feel guilty or feel the fomo of not being where it seems like everyone else is, but saying No just has to be done and at the end of the day you have to do whats right for not only your business, but also your own own peace of mind. Finding that work life balance is probably the hardest task and I’m well on my way to making sure I find that ideal place to enjoy life at full speed in all avenues again.

Go easy on yourself, running a business properly is hard, but your not superman and you cannot be everywhere at once - lets be honest nothing worth it ever comes easy anyway right!

Stacey x